What you should do to be happy at 40November 13, 2016
Aim for the long-term goals, and do not chase short-term pleasures
Chances are you will find something, and more. Aristotle believed that the basis of all human behavior motivation is the desire to be happy. And happiness is not only in the short-term pleasures like delicious food or a perfect day on the beach. Happiness - is primarily a pursuit of an important goal: for example, to raise children or to run a marathon. Strive for your dreams, and you will be happier.
Choose what is most important
Short-term goals have a destructive effect on your life. For example, you focus on activities that bring immediate gratification (for example, at work), and set aside for later complex, but more significant (for example, family and children).
Many people tied for first place work, not family, because the results of their work can be seen and felt immediately. You work all night and successfully close the deal, and then you raise and are grateful for the work done. In family matters such does not happen. But in fact it is close and native people - the deepest source of happiness. By investing energy, time and energy into a relationship with the family, you can achieve heights and in other spheres of life.
Avoid boredom, not fear
Most people are professionals in their field for 40 years, and then there is a choice: a cautious game or risk. And, as is often the case, risk aversion in the work becomes the main reason for stagnation and dissatisfaction with life.
Remember that you have all the cards in their hands - after all there is a huge difference between a one year experience and twenty years. This does not mean you have to blindly follow their fantasies. Instead, think about how you can do your work to reflect your skills, personality traits and talents.
At each stage of your life you have to be in something a novice
Try new things. Even if you fail in their endeavors, it will make you stronger only. Ride your bike, think of themselves unusual hobby. Your life should always be something new and effortless. If you find people and activities that you care about, you will live an extraordinary life.
Add punctuation in your life
The very beginning of adulthood involves many stages: release from the university, the beginning of a career, marriage, first child. The average age can be compared with a book with no structure: no proposals, chapters, paragraphs, punctuation. Remember that the goal in life make us think. Small victories over themselves to help gladly get out of bed every morning. Put your goals and achieve them.
Few failures - what you need
It seems that all the bad things that can happen only, concentrated in the middle of life, you can lose a spouse, parents, favorite work, your good health. But people with a quiet life - in the absence of the blows of fate - are more likely to feel unhappy and easier to become depressed than those who experienced some negative events in their lives. Some failures will help you to look at yourself and your life in a new way and learn to recover their vitality.
The biggest threats to a long marriage is boredom and a lack of attention
The brain loves novelty. Therefore, the surest way to spice up a marriage that goes on long-established path - new experience. Hike, tour the mountains and forests. You may find that there is no more boring classes, but it's worth it: Gather items, grab the kids and friends and go in search of the new. Out of such a familiar and cozy comfort zone, even at the time will make your life brighter and relationships - tight.
Happiness - it's love
The secret of a successful and happy life not in biology. It's not genes, not a high position in society and education. It is not IQ or upbringing. The secret of prosperity - a warm relationship.
In conclusion, let us recall the main idea of happiness: a second chance seems always the main thing - keep your eyes open.